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Listing of books by topic or subject matter can be found as a reply to this thread. (Post #2) Added in post #2 only a listing for true life books on domestic violence and abuse.

This first post is an alphabetical listing by title of all the books that have been recommended by Our Place members.

Both lists will be updated from the sticky post list at the top of the main forum. Recommendations may also be Pmed to an admin for inclusion.

Bartender's Guide to Classic Cocktails. (Author? :animal-smiley-040: )

Breaking Free From Boomerang Love- Lynn Melville

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend

Boundaries in Marriage--Cloud and Townsend

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - Anne Katherine

Breaking the Cycle by John Gottman (the marriage guru) and Neil Jacobson. New Insights Into Violent Relationships

Broken and Battered - Muriel Canfield About

Change your thinking - Sarah Edelman

Children of the Self-Absorbed- Nina W. Brown

Controlling People - Patricia Evans

Dangerous Marriage-S.R. McDill and Linda McDill

Dead End Lovers: How to Avoid Them and Find True Intimacy-Nina W.Brown

Ditch That Jerk by Pamela Jayne Ph.D.

This one seems to always miss the lists because of its title. But it is an excellent book about abuse. It gives the three different types of abuser:

The Potentially Good Guy, The Definitely Bad Guy and The Utterly Hopeless Guy

Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond From a Vindictive Ex- Richard A. Warshaw

The Dance of Anger- Harriet Lerner

Emotional Blackmail-Susan Forward

Everyone can win - Helena Cornelius and Shoshana Faire

Fat, Broke & Lonely No More: Your Personal Solution to Overeating, Overspending, and Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places by Victoria Moran (Excellent book for after you leave the relationship)

Finding Your Way Through Domestic Abuse- Connie Fourre

Fool Proofing Your Life by Jan Silvous

He Loves Me Not? (How to Break the Cycle of Painful Relationships)- by Joanne Robinson Amazon review

How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved- Sandra L. Brown

How to Survive the Loss of a Love- Colgrove, Bloomfield, McWilliams

How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk - Adele Farber and Elaine Mazlish

Invisible Wounds- Kay Douglas

It's My Life Now (Starting over after an abusive relationship or domestic violence) - Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger Hock

It's Not Your Fault - Patricia McGraw -- A very well-done, easy-read explanation of PTSD, causes and recovery.

Loving Your Child Is Not Enough Positive Discipline That Works -Nancy Samalin

Making Your Family Work- Mary G. Durkin

Mending the Soul Understanding and Healing Abuse--Steven R. Tracy

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don't Know Why by Dr Susan Forward

Nasty Men-How to Stop Being Hurt By Them Without Stooping to Their Level- Jay Carter

Negotiating Love,How Women and Men Can Resolve Their Differences- Rikki Robbins Jones

Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion. Barbara Roberts

For further info go to www.notunderbondage.com where you can browse some of the book, read reviews, etc.

No Visible Wounds- Mary Susan Miller

Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go by Dr Susan Forward

Pain and Pretending - Rich Buhler

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook - Glenn R. Schiraldi -- A heavy-duty, in depth book on PTSD.

Raising Your Spirited Child - Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Really relating - David Jansen and Margaret Newman

Safe People by Cloud & Townsend

Stalking the Soul - Marie France Hirigoyen

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder- Paul T.Mason, Randi Keeger

Soul Dating to Soul Mating, On the Path Toward Spiritual Partnership- Basha Kaplan and Gail Prince

10 Lies the Church Tells Women- J. Lee Grady

The Abusive Personality-Donald Dutton

The Batterer:A Psychological Profile- Donald Dutton

The Courage to heal - Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern-Nina W. Brown

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship - Beverly Engel

The Gift of Fear - Gavin DeBecker

The Language of Letting Go-Melody Beattie

The PTSD Workbook - Mary Beth William and Soili Poijula -- A self-help workbook

The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse - Albert Ellis and Marcia Grad Powers

The Sociopath next door - Martha Stout

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse- Johnson Van Vonderson

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

Toxic Parents- Susan Forward

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay Mira Kirshenbaum

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman

When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft

When Good Men Behave Badly-David B. Wexler

When I Say No I Feel Guilty - Manual J. Smith

When Love Goes Wrong - Anne Jones and Susan Schecter

When Things Fall Apart- Pema Chodron

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends - Victoria Secunda

Where To Draw The Line - Anne Katherine

Why does he do that? - Lundy Bancroft

Why Is He So Mean To Me? by Cindy Burrell Author's page

Why Parents Disagree and What You Can Do About It -Ron Taffel

Women Who Run With the Wolves- Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Would the Real Church PLEASE Stand Up? - Susan Greenfield Amazon review

You Are Not Alone - Words of experience and hope for the journey through depression by Julia Thorne

You Can't Say That to Me!- Suzette Haden

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Book list broken down by subject matter or topic. Includes member feed back on some books.

(A work in progress. Please PM me if you see a book you feel is listed wrongly or if you see one that belongs in more than one category so I can amend the list. I admit that on some I am guessing so I appreciate any help from those who do know the books. If you would like to write a line or two about a book that is welcome too.)

Abuse

Breaking the Cycle by John Gottman (the marriage guru) and Neil Jacobson. New Insights Into Violent Relationships

Controlling People - Patricia Evans

Ditch That Jerk by Pamela Jayne Ph.D.

This one seems to always miss the lists because of its title. But it is an excellent book about abuse. It gives the three different types of abuser:

The Potentially Good Guy, The Definitely Bad Guy and The Utterly Hopeless Guy

Finding Your Way Through Domestic Abuse- Connie Fourre

The Abusive Personality-Donald Dutton

The Batterer:A Psychological Profile- Donald Dutton

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship - Beverly Engel

The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse - Albert Ellis and Marcia Grad Powers

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman

When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft

When Love Goes Wrong - Anne Jones and Susan Schecter

Why does he do that? - Lundy Bancroft

Boundaries

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - Anne Katherine

Christian/Spiritual Perspective

Boundaries in Marriage - Cloud and Townsend

Broken and Battered - Muriel Canfield About Two women's stories and good advice.

He Loves Me Not? (How to Break the Cycle of Painful Relationships)- by Joanne Robinson Amazon review

Mending the Soul Understanding and Healing Abuse - Steven R. Tracy

Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion. Barbara Roberts

For further info go to www.notunderbondage.com where you can browse some of the book, read reviews, etc. Author recommended. There is now a very positive report on this book by a member who found the book very helpful and displaying the understanding of a survivor.

10 Lies the Church Tells Women- J. Lee Grady

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse- Johnson Van Vonderson

Why Is He So Mean To Me? by Cindy Burrell Author's page

Would the Real Church PLEASE Stand Up? - Susan Greenfiel Amazon review

Depression

You Are Not Alone - Words of experience and hope for the journey through depression by Julia Thorne

Kids and Parenting

Children of the Self-Absorbed- Nina W. Brown

Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond From a Vindictive Ex- Richard A. Warshaw

How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk - Adele Farber and Elaine Mazlish

Loving Your Child Is Not Enough Positive Discipline That Works -Nancy Samalin

Raising Your Spirited Child - Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

Toxic Parents- Susan Forward

When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft

Why Parents Disagree and What You Can Do About It -Ron Taffel

Living, Survival and Recovery

Fat, Broke & Lonely No More: Your Personal Solution to Overeating, Overspending, and Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places by Victoria Moran Excellent book for after you leave the relationship

Fool Proofing Your Life by Jan Silvous

It's My Life Now (Starting over after an abusive relationship or domestic violence) - Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger Hock

Personal Growth

PTSD

It's Not Your Fault - Patricia McGraw -- A very well-done, easy-read explanation of PTSD, causes and recovery.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook - Glenn R. Schiraldi - A heavy-duty, in depth book on PTSD.

The PTSD Workbook - Mary Beth William and Soili Poijula - A self-help workbook

Relationships

Breaking Free From Boomerang Love- Lynn Melville

Dead End Lovers: How to Avoid Them and Find True Intimacy-Nina W.Brown

How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved- Sandra L. Brown

Making Your Family Work- Mary G. Durkin

Negotiating Love,How Women and Men Can Resolve Their Differences- Rikki Robbins Jones

Really relating - David Jansen and Margaret Newman

Staying safe

The Gift of Fear - Gavin DeBecker

True Life Abuse and DV- Biographies, Autobiographies, Memoirs

I do think that there can be a lot to learn and understanding and validation to be had through reading about the real life experiences of people just like us.

If I Am Missing or Dead by Janine Latus (A sister's story of love, murder and liberation)

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