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gracebee

giving of your self

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gracebee

I am writing this here because I learned something for the first time today.

I was driving...and talking to God. I asked him if it was ok for me to feel like I want to help the people that are joining my singles group...if it was trying to fix them...

(they are new christians or have all been through something very difficult, like addiciton or death of a spouse, or abuse,they came to me when I became the leader of our church single's group. none of them even knew what it was....they just wanted to be around other people. so we have this odd, searching, seeking group of people.)

I knew it felt different than what I had known before--the need to be a hero.

This is more like just being able to get my own desires out of the way....my selfishness....

selfishness...is what really got me in trouble in the first place....thinking I had to meet a certain need (a man) in order to be fulfilled.

I believe fulfillment comes many times from laying down our own needs and simply being a friend to someone else.

So I had a sort of epiphany. I must walk softly and daily go to God for refueling.

I will let you know how it goes....

gracie

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Zoeygirl
I believe fulfillment comes many times from laying down our own needs and simply being a friend to someone else.

God bless you, gracebee. I think you are going to find this work very rewarding.

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HVC

This is awesome.

In my marriage, at first, I gave of myself for acceptance. Then I gave of myself to keep peace. Then I gave of myself to keep him from leaving the horror that was me (yes, his projections, but still....), then I gave to maintain the status quo whilst I planned my escape.

Now, I give because I like giving. I can't always give, either, and that's Okay. I can say, I'm sorry, I just can't give today. And when my bucket starts filling back up, I give again, because giving in that sense, selflessly because I care, actually fills my bucket up.

It's hard sometimes to remove a "motive" from my giving. Some of it is so entrenched. But "free" "no strings" "no requirement for an outcome" giving is pretty amazing in how it always gives right back. Instantaneously.

In your case, I think God's landed you at the helm for a purpose and you are rising to it. Way to go! :)

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