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Confused714

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I am taking the steps to prepare myself to leave but I am feeling so guilty for feeling this way. I did give him one more chance to change but already seeing the signs that it's not going to happen. I feel like I am just in a waiting game. I still feel so bad and guilty at the same time. I am so exhausted and know I can't continue to live this way but I do also love him. My therapist thinks he may have borderline personality disorder as well as obsessive compulsive personality disorder based on what I have told her. Unless he gets help he definitely will not get better. I just don't think I can handle much more. It's destroying me yet I still feel guilty. 

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EnoughisEnough

I feel guilty too at times. For a long time the guilt kept me with an abuser. And little by little I began to blame myself, and then one day I realized that he is never going to change. This after years of emotional and physical abuse. I'm out now, and I struggle with guilt, but I didn't make his choices. I'm not responsible for his abuse. I don't know, but mine probably landed on his feet and will go on to the next victim. I have a life to live and if I remember how his abuse threatened my life and made me feel insignificant, I'm glad to be out and he can deal with whatever happens in his life. Not my problem anymore.

We deserve to be free. 

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Bennu

You deserve happiness.

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Fluffyflea

And even if they get help they don't get better. Borderline Personality Disorder is hopeless at best.

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