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Hope41

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Whilst I have been out of the abusive relationship for many years now I still feel I am still so affected, I don't know why I still feel this way, I think I should have got somewhat over it by now. 

I received communication in regards to child support and something as simple as that has triggered me off.

Have been having terrible nightmares and inappropriate dreams about my ex.

 I get scared when I see someone that resembles him in the street .

Does this ever end?

 

 

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Unhappy

I hope that it does. I am still in an abusive relation and having trouble getting out. Best wishes for your recovery. Seeing a counselor might help. 

 

 

 

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Confused714

I think that it will as time passes. I am currently still in a relationship and figuring things out for myself but in the past I was in a really bad abusive relationship. I know it was really hard afterward. I remember when I started dating someone new when I would say things to him that might get him angry because my ex would I would immediately put my arms up to protect myself. It took awhile to realize he wasn't him and that I was safe. I eventually got more comfortable and relaxed although the thought of that person even to this day still is like a punch in the stomach. I unfortunately got myself into another situation that I am now working my way through. It is no where near as bad as the one before but is now more complicated as we are married and have a child. I hope you will find your peace eventually. It just takes time.  A lot of time depending on how long you were together and how bad it got. 

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AZ-home

It's PTSD or C-PTSD. I struggle with it too. I had a nightmare just last night that I was back in his house. I was confused as to how I got there and mad at myself. I was SO relieved to wake up and find out it wasn't true. It was so disturbing I actually forced myself to wake up. As in, PLEASE let this just be a dream! Whew! I have been triggered by stuff on TV and stories people tell me about him. Maybe it goes away eventually. Maybe it's part of the healing. Maybe that fear has now be released? I think if the nightmares come once in a while, I can handle that. If it's daily, you might need to get into therapy. 

 

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43 minutes ago, AZ-home said:

It's PTSD or C-PTSD. I struggle with it too. I had a nightmare just last night that I was back in his house. I was confused as to how I got there and mad at myself. I was SO relieved to wake up and find out it wasn't true. It was so disturbing I actually forced myself to wake up. As in, PLEASE let this just be a dream! Whew! I have been triggered by stuff on TV and stories people tell me about him. Maybe it goes away eventually. Maybe it's part of the healing. Maybe that fear has now be released? I think if the nightmares come once in a while, I can handle that. If it's daily, you might need to get into therapy. 

 

Yes I think it is PTSD and I was told that years ago but did not want to listen. 

With the dreams it's really only when I'm anxious or there has been something to remind me of him,but over the years if they become bad I too can force myself to wake up from them

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MorningGlory

The brain will try to heal itself in your sleep. It will run different scenarios and patterns. While some of it when you wake up might make you uncomfortable. You do need to let your brain blow off some steam. What I found is when I was receiving pressure and feeling attacked. It generated anxiety which sent my brain into overtime. It is one of the signs that you're dealing with PTSD but still does not mean you have it. Even when you start to heal from PTSD years later a stressful situation can still trigger nightmares.

Some of the pain we have to deal with is what we wanted for our lives. The goals we always tried to obtain and the time the NARC took made some of those dreams distant and unobtainable. Your mind has to reconcile this with your spirit and soul. So it entertains it self in strange ways. For what it is worth it might be your mind pumping you up to withstand an upcoming encounter. Be grateful for the mind doing so much work in your sleep and thank your mind for working on it. 

When I went to bed I would say to myself if you can figure out how to get more peace I would be grateful MIND. Do what you have to do to heal. 

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tendrils

I love the thought process to your analogy MG 

It has brought great comfort to me this morning .

Thankyou 

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10 hours ago, MorningGlory said:

The brain will try to heal itself in your sleep. It will run different scenarios and patterns. While some of it when you wake up might make you uncomfortable. You do need to let your brain blow off some steam. What I found is when I was receiving pressure and feeling attacked. It generated anxiety which sent my brain into overtime. It is one of the signs that you're dealing with PTSD but still does not mean you have it. Even when you start to heal from PTSD years later a stressful situation can still trigger nightmares.

Some of the pain we have to deal with is what we wanted for our lives. The goals we always tried to obtain and the time the NARC took made some of those dreams distant and unobtainable. Your mind has to reconcile this with your spirit and soul. So it entertains it self in strange ways. For what it is worth it might be your mind pumping you up to withstand an upcoming encounter. Be grateful for the mind doing so much work in your sleep and thank your mind for working on it. 

When I went to bed I would say to myself if you can figure out how to get more peace I would be grateful MIND. Do what you have to do to heal. 

Thank that has really helped 

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