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Fightingtobeme

Screw you Judge!

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I hadn't told anyone on the forum this because of shame. I am squeaky clean, never been in trouble, don't drink, smoke,  do drugs etc. But part of the reason i was trapped for so long was my ex grew pot and would tell me if i went to the police i would go to gaol over the pot. 

Well he was nearly right. I got charged, and the complete and utter shame and trauma this has caused me. When i was with my ex i woke each day with the desire to live and escape. But being charged i seriously considered ending it all. 

Tuesday was my third time at court because of it. My lawyer wanted me to keep fighting to clear my name, but the next step was taking the stand, having witnesses etc. I couldn't face it. The first time i went to court i had to tell the clerk (receptionist at front desk) my name. I couldn't speak, crying, lost my voice due to fear, developed a stutter i still have several months later. 

Anyway this all leads to Tuesday where i caved and told my lawyer to say guilty just to get it over and done with... lawyer says he worked away from home 6 days a fortnight rest of the time he was jome. And the judge says "why didn't she just leave when he wasn't home?"  I wish it was that easy. The judge clearly has no understanding of the trauma and complexity of domestic violence.  Leaving wasn't an option. 

People in authority, police, judges etc should have mandatory dv training to have some form of understanding and empathy. 

That's my rant. 

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Bennu

I'm sorry. You are right that we victims are not understood by the court system and end up getting screwed by it. I feel the same way.

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Fightingtobeme

In my opinion if you got charged for what your husband was doing because you lived with him, that is not fair. I'm sorry to hear that you have been going through this.

 

 

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