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Please feel free to suggest any links or web sites, books, help lines or information lines, services or pretty much anything that you can think of or know of that might be of help to anyone at any stage of dealing with abuse or it's aftermath.

Currently the Resources area has listings for-

Domestic Violence services and hot lines world wide.

Safety information - real life and net based

Free or subsidised stuff to help those having to start from scratch or close to it.

General abuse information

Relationships

Links to other sites and forums

Library of recommended reading relevant to the purpose of this forum.

Please check the Resource area for what is already listed before posting a suggestion on this thread.

The Library in the Resources section

Link to the original book list.

Your suggestions are appreciated.

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The ad I see on tv says, "If you receive food stamps, medicaid, or other government assistance, you are eligible for a free cell phone with 250 minutes per month."

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The sexual abuse really caught me by surprise. It wasn't something I would have dreamed of in a million years. And I AM grateful it didn't progress or become physical interactions of sexual abuse, it still happened and I had to deal with it.

I was recently PMed and asked about some of the sites and resources I had researched about sexual abuse. While most of my research focused on batterer as a sexual abuser, I ran across some really good stuff that would be helpful to any abuse victim I think.

I don't know if our resource list already has some of this stuff, but I thought I'd post it up here as well in case a section could be added or something specific for sexual abuse related to a batterer/abuser.

I love this author: Christina Enavoldsen from this site: http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/ . I think when she discusses her own upbringing with her parents etc. she REALLY NAILS it and expresses it very succinctly, and even though I wasn't sexually abused as a child, this really helped me cope with my own mother's verbal and emotional abuse of myself when I was growing up.

I try to keep up with their blogs and articles. They have a LOT of excellent resources there.

They're also on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/overcoming.osa

I also like this one and they are on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emergingfrombroken

And their website is also good: http://emergingfrombroken.com/

Lundy Bancroft also has written about it (relating battery to incest abuse etc.), which is (as usual for him) extremely good: http://www.dwetendorf.com/Mother_DV_SA.htm

If you're interested in "figuring it out" which I was at the time, because I didn't UNDERSTAND what had happened and I NEEDED to understand it better, I found this book free online and I read it pretty thoroughly at the time and figured out which category my husband fell into (i.e. he's NOT a pedophile, but he's an ABUSER. He doesn't seek out specific age range of children, he used his own when it was convenient. like just an opportunistic abusive sociopath type person) understanding it HELPED ME COPE. But this book isn't really to heal or anything, and it's not really for the victim's benefit necessarily. It's just an extremely informative overview of sex-offenders and explains the abusive opportunity-type offender:

http://www.missingkids.com/en_US/publications/NC70.pdf

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I will check these out later and likely add them if we don't have them already.

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Please feel free to suggest any links or web sites, books, help lines or information lines, services or pretty much anything that you can think of or know of that might be of help to anyone at any stage of dealing with abuse or it's aftermath.

Currently the Resources area has listings for-

Domestic Violence services and hot lines world wide.

Safety information - real life and net based

Free or subsidised stuff to help those having to start from scratch or close to it.

General abuse information

Relationships

Links to other sites and forums

Library of recommended reading relevant to the purpose of this forum.

Please check <a href="http://forums.our-place-online.net/index.php?showforum=17" target="_blank">the Resource area </a>for what is already listed before posting a suggestion on this thread.

<a href="http://forums.our-place-online.net/index.php?showforum=29" target="_blank">The Library in the Resources section</a>

<a href="http://forums.our-place-online.net/index.php?showtopic=831" target="_blank">Link to the original book list.</a>

Your suggestions are appreciated.

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How about inspiring stories? I found Katie Pipers book "Beautiful" a lovely piece of inspiration for me soon after I emancipated myself from my abusers.

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Hi all,

I'm past the stage of trying to understand "why" he did it and now I want to know "how" I can get better, I don't care about him anymore or his mental disability, I really need to be able to recover and stop being fearful that I never will recover or that I never will trust again.... anybody know of any resources for this?

thanks

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Babydoll have you checked out the books listed in our library? Here. A range of topics are covered and some are more about healing and protecting yourself from being abused again.

We can look in to that book. It could well be something to help others.

This thread really is intended for members to post about links or resources that they think could be added to our resources section to help others so you will likely get more responses to your question by starting a new thread in the main forum.

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