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Fluffyflea

When the Trust is gone there is no point.

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I should have left 2.5 years ago when he blew my trust.

He was such a liar about everything.

How is it possible to forgive?

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Oh, man....forgiveness is a process. Just start trying, and keep trying. My past year has been a journey of forgiveness of many dear ones who should have supported me in my difficult time and did not. I'm getting there. I try to have an "attitude of forgiveness" but it comes in waves and I feel different from one day to the next. It's like 3 steps forward and 2 steps back. But when I look back at six months ago, I can see progress.

I still need to forgive my ex but that's a bigger project. I'm one + year from the divorce and still working on it. 

Good luck.

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I mean I have a part in it too, when he was going behind my back and trying to sleep with someone else and I found out through her, I should have left then. But I disregarded myself and stayed.

So of course he figured he could just do anything and have less respect for me and I had way less respect for me.

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Forgive yourself first. It's ok. We all make mistakes. We did the best we could in difficult circumstances. 

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Also a barrage of YouTube speakers got me through this process faster. Start with Trent Shelton or Thrive After Abuse.

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