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Fluffyflea

Crap hit the fan

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So Hi All,

The crap hit the fan last night.

Abuser got angry and frustrated over a DVD that wasn't working properly and then turned to take it out on me.

He told me to leave (I was at his house) I told him that sounded like a good idea as he was being Psycho so I was getting my stuff together and then he told me he never wanted me to go back there again as he wasn't getting anything out of the relationship. I said okay and pulled a brand new heavy black garbage bag out of where I kept my stuff and unrolled it in front of him. The look on his face was priceless. So I packed, stayed super calm and then he screeches out Give Me My Gas Card Back!! So I said Okay and got it out of my wallet then I found a check he gave me and I ripped that up and threw it at him. The look on his face was priceless. 

Then when I was packed I said "Good over reaction,time to call your sponsor." Then I said Do me a favour, when you see me don't talk to me."

And I was carrYIng my stuff he screeches "Shut the Door." Like, Really????

So I left came home blocked him off my cell phone, blocked him off gmail,turned off my house phones and shut down my twitter account and mailed his house keys back. Going to NO CONTACT!

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Fluffyflea

Good for you! I wish you the best life ahead! You are a strong person.

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Good for you! Now make sure to be extra kind to yourself. You did a hard thing. The adrenaline might wear off and leave you with mixed emotions. Remember how this felt. Remember how he treated you. You deserve better.

It's so funny how he HAD to have the last word, isn't it? "Shut the door!" Lame, huh...lol

 

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Yeah, do some good journaling now. Then when you are missing him, you will have something to read.

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Great reactions from you. Great to read this too. Happy for ya, wish you well

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For right now the memory of him screeching at me to close the door on my way out is enough to keep me going for awhile.

Anyways the good thing is last Saturday we out for supper with a couple of friends and my friend saw the the way he gets verbally abusive and angry ? with people who don't agree with him.

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Fluffyflea,

You handled that perfectly! I love it! Good job! I am just crossing the one year mark of no contact and it gets better and better. It is the ONLY way to get his words out of your head. 

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It's really good validation and reality check that your friend witnessed that. 

 

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So I get some news this morning that I would normally share with him so I shared it with someone else to get the impulse out of my body to call him.

 

i did put a bag of odds and ends out on the front porch of his but won't be contacting him about it.

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