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Vicky

Dateline Episode - Abuse and Marital Rape

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Just watched this episode online from Dateline titled "Behind Closed Doors" not sure how long the links will stay up as the site rotates episodes.

This woman was married to a man who was abusive to her and she reported to police right away and split up and he went to anger management counseling.

She contacted authorities, even had orders.

She began to fear for her life, and they had 2 kids together.

This is graphic and can be triggering, it addresses Rape in marriage,

This is one tough gal, and I can relate to why she did things the way she did. People wonder why people dont just get out and get away, and there is the fear of being killed or no hope the police will hold them.

And then what she endured going to court against him, she even got one of the rapes on tape,,, and they tried comparing it to 50 Shades of Gray and her husband and attny said it was "Role Playing"

This woman got a bill in action to protect victims of violent crimes

He was sentenced to 5 yrs in jail. And she was to pay his legal fees and spousal support!

She got a law passed, its awesome!

But they said in one year he will be out of jail.

And my first comment is....

Wow, hes probably going to bother her next with visitation/custody for their 2 kids when hes out.

See here is a person who took legal steps for protection and action and look what she still went through? God Bless her

http://www.nbcnews.com/id/3032600/#51972270

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Sometimes it is best to move away and not let anyone know where you're going. I can't watch this because it would be way too triggering for me, but I know what she's going through in a way. Except in my case my ex was a government employee and the government let him get away with everything, including rape.

It's ridiculous that she has to pay her rapist money. It just shows that the legal system caters to the men.

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It breaks my heart how women that have been treated harshly sexually by their mate and get seen at withholding and not valid. I had many talks with spiritual elders and they really would over look the whole issue with me and my EX. I had a few of these talks myself and I was dismissed. She had all the evidence and did all the right measures yet look at the difficulty. I was encouraged to cover over wrongs with love and it only put me in a more vulnerable place. It is a crime of lack of consent. You can never force your mate and should be part of sexual education. Respect towards a mate while they are vulnerable is essential to trust.

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Noroses, the judge ordered her to pay him , but she got that turned around and the law changed!

Chavah, it takes a minute for the page to load with the story, so just open it and wait and see if it works.

I did look her up on other websites. Crystal Harris.

Here is another clip and story on her, but the first link tells the complete story.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/sexual-assault-victim-ordered-pay-alimony-attacker-fights/story?id=16075409#.UaLSgofVCSo

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