• Announcements

    • Curly

      Replying to PMs

      Please note that you can not reply to a personal message by replying to the notification email. Recently admins have received some email responses to personal messages. This is because some members have replied to the notification email. You can not reply to a personal message via the email. What replying to the notification email does is send a copy of the original message and the reply to the admin email address. It does not send your reply to the person who sent you the message. The email notification of the personal message does request "PLEASE DO NOT REPLY DIRECTLY TO THIS EMAIL!"
    • Curly

      New Members and validating your account.

      New members registering please do not hesitate to contact our admin if you do not see a validation email within a few minutes of registering. Yahoo and some other email addresses tend to block the validation email and without this part of the process your account remains in limbo. Our admins are more than happy to help you complete the validation process should this automated system fail. We can be contacted via admin.our.place@gmail.com Please note that you may experience a delay between registering your account and validating before you are able to post as we do also manually process all registrations to keep this forum free of spam. Your account should be activated within 24 hours of you completing the validation process. Thank you.

amaranth

Members
  • Content count

    2
  • Joined

  • Last visited

About amaranth

  • Rank
    Welcome Newbie
  1. Quaddie, thank you so, so much for your kind and thoughtful response. You are right; I deleted my post because it felt like a betrayal. I was terrified that they'd find it, and that the detail I included was enough for them to recognise it, although I know it would have been unlikely. I'm sorry for my poor timing in deleting it, and so grateful that you put so much time and kindness into rewriting it. They have changed a lot over the years, and I don't want to hurt them by bringing up the past, even if not directly to them. But at the same time I am realising more and more how much it has and still does affect me, and I realise that I need to work through it for the sake of my own mental health. I'm thankful that you understand so much of what I wrote, and the explanations you offer make a lot of sense. It is very scary to start acknowledging these things, but I see that it is also necessary. I will go and look into the books you recommended now. Again, thank you so much for your kindness. I did not expect any response after I deleted my post, not to mention one filled with so much compassion and help.