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Fluffyflea

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  1. Today was a relapse about the ex wondering if I could have said or done anything different. If we could have fixed it. Just General rolling around in my head and feeling like it's a death and feeling in mourning. in mourning.
  2. Hi Everyone, Thanks for all the replies. Well a few weeks have gone by since posting this and I want to bring everyone up to date. Ive started going back to my A.A meetings as I found out he's gone off to his other life in Arizona......... Anyways I was regaled with glad you are back and glad to see you and also regaled with stories of his temper tantrums at meetings and that one meeting was thinking of getting a restraining order on him so he couldn't go anymore. I was rather shocked to hear that he had behaved so inappropriately but also rather amused and delighted 😂😂. I wasn't around he couldn't pin anything on me. I figure he didn't have his punching bag anymore (me) so he had to disperse his rage somehow so he took it out on anyone he could.
  3. Thanx for the post. Reading in Lundy Bancroft that 1% of them actually change has always stuck with me. My ex won't change and that's fine with me.
  4. Now that I've been away from the Pr$&k for 10 weeks I see things a little more clearly. Hes so insecure that he was willing to toss me aside so he could get to that next fix for his ego. He doesn't care that he hurts people, that our relationship was in jeopardy and finally ended because of his insane hunger for validation from others. Now all I have to do is keep reminding myself that I was more than enough of a person, that it's ALL HIS PROBLEM.
  5. It is a You Tube video. Yes there are a few of those things in there 👍😀
  6. Seven Things a Narcissist will say to get you back. I watched it this morning. They are so predictable.
  7. So I was wondering what people did to start over after their relationship was over. I feel like I'm just going through the motions.
  8. The problem is he's being a meeting hog on purpose of course. I would like to go to meetings where he isn't.
  9. What about splitting up the A.A meetings? Id just like to go to a couple where he isn't at.
  10. What about mutual friends? And we also went to the same A.A meetings together what do I do about that if I want to maintain no contact?
  11. Thanks Hoping 👍🤗😃
  12. Hi All, For the last couple of days I've been having this feeling of having been violated and I think I have been because the ex narcissistic abuser used to just walk all over my boundaries, me my values anything because basically he didn't give a rats butt about anything other than himself and his bottomless pit of needs. I never felt heard or that felt that my needs mattered.
  13. đŸ˜ĸ☚ī¸
  14. Yes super good book. It was eye opening for me.
  15. Ha ha ha I love that "How we DRIVE them to do or say things." My ex told me once "The reason I talk to you that way is so you won't do it again."
  16. About the fantasy part that was why he became such a different person because that's the real him.
  17. Yes, used.
  18. They really are text book.
  19. It's abuse and manipulation because this isn't normally how he acts he's just doing this to keep you hooked.
  20. I don't have anything to say that will be helpful other than I don't miss all this stuff.
  21. I said in a previous post about the money on my birthday and this letter beseeching me to let him help me so I thought about it for a couple of days. And then I stupidly decided to accept the offer. And then I stupidly unblocked him for texting on my cell phone to let him know I had accepted the offer and he hasn't left me alone all afternoon. So I think I'll have to reject the offer. Its like he thinks we are going to reconcile,he says we're having problems no WE BROKE UP!!!! He said he hasn't opened the envelope with the keys I sent back to him two months ago.
  22. I guess I'm shocked at how he's just ignoring the initial event that ended everything and just thinks if he throws enough my way things will be deflected and forgotten about. And again he won't be responsible......
  23. He hasn't even opened the envelope that I sent back with his house keys in it.
  24. It's not in your head.
  25. Yesterday was my birthday. I received 2,000.00 from him. They really know how to hit below the belt.