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Fluffyflea

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  1. Oh I don't know what to say. These two checks appeared from the ex last night. I said to him today via text after I got this great long text message from him that I hoped he wasn't doing this thinking we were getting back together because I told him I wanted to be clear we weren't. Well he went from 0 to 100 in two seconds over text. He is so CRAZY! Anyways he cut me off and that's fine and I finally got out everything I've been wanting to say to him since we broke up. And he can go to hell.
  2. He's just a jerk and screw him. Maybe you might need an antidepressant for awhile.
  3. I didn't want sex at the end. I was merely a vessel for him even in the beginning of relationship to feed his ego. He used to me the difference between him and other men was that he "liked" women. Hes the biggest woman hater I ever met.
  4. YES!
  5. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
  6. He is abusing your son as well as you.
  7. But he does and it's not going to change.
  8. They are just wired differently with their own agenda of how relationships are supposed to run. The way they are supposed to run in their minds is how the relationship benefits THEM!!!! The relationship has very little to do with US if anything at all. We are just tools to feed their very fragile personas.
  9. 😰😰hugs
  10. Soberrecovery.com you can find message boards on Alcoholism and Drug Abuse. Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous meetings in your area?
  11. I'm sorry but he's abusing your son too. Do you have a safe place you and your son can go? Your abuser is getting worse and worse.
  12. He'll blame you no matter what you do or how you do it.
  13. He doesn't love you. He doesn't love himself,he needs you in a twisted way to get his identity and his good feelings about himself.
  14. I laughed when I read Empathetic. Once I was told I had no empathy, coming from the person who "faked" empathy with everyone.
  15. Mine was a fake relationship. We had none of the basic normal things between people.
  16. Yes he would have and worsened as time went on. Its really up to you if you want to stay or leave. It's how you feel about it.
  17. 👍👍👍
  18. And this is true. This is it in a nutshell. The ex was all show to look like the great guy. And he wasn't the great guy. I was just happy when he was performing his good guy act. And your husbands comments aren't little things, they are very overtly abusive and soul crushing.
  19. Five Ways we Rationalize Abuse and Why We Need to Stop. thoughtcatalogue
  20. Please read about Minimizing Abuse. He is VERY abusive.
  21. Richard Grannon on You Tube Narcissistic Abuse.
  22. I came up with there is no chance of change and who cares if they were traumatized as a child, it's still unacceptable to be abusive to people because of it.
  23. He's abusive.
  24. They have a really good, clear definition of Trauma Bonding on Wikipedia. I went through that, this really weird turmoil would be created by the jerk and I would always look to him to fix it. So they hurt and we look to them to fix it. What a screwed up cycle.
  25. He is jealous of your son too.